Accessing Resilience from Adversity

You can be the parent you needed and perhaps didn’t get. While you can’t rewrite history, you can heal by giving yourself a “do-over.” You can reimagine an upsetting situation and provide a different outcome. This form of active imagination may work wonders because the body doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality. When you imagine a different outcome for yourself, you are essentially reliving the experience and rewiring your brain to think about it in a new way. 

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An Invitation as You Navigate the Israel-Palestine Conflict

When you approach someone from a place of curiosity and understanding, they become less of a monster and more of a human. It’s your choice who you connect with right now. You don’t have to cultivate empathy for other people but I encourage you to embrace nuance. Recognize the conflict in the Middle East is complicated and layered. The temptation to sort yourself into a group is very strong right now but, in the end, we’re all just humans, no matter what group we belong to.

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Exploring the Synergy: The Roles of Psychologists and Marriage & Family Therapists

Marriage and family therapy and psychology are both invaluable fields in the mental health arena, each offering a unique set of skills and approaches. The choice between these professions depends on the specific needs of the individual or family seeking help.

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The Often Unacknowledged Grief of Miscarriage

Miscarriage is a profound and often silent form of grief that extends beyond the parent who physically miscarried. The grief experienced by partners, extended family, and friends is equally real and deserves recognition and support. By acknowledging and addressing disenfranchised grief, society can help those affected by miscarriage navigate their loss and find healing and solace in the company of empathetic and understanding communities.

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A Nonconsensual Third Wheel in Your Relationship: The Cell Phone

Constant phone use, including scrolling through social media, texting, or even playing mobile games, can lead to a lack of genuine emotional connection. Partners may struggle to engage in meaningful conversations and share their thoughts, dreams, and concerns when one or both individuals are constantly distracted by their devices. The emotional connection that once held the couple together may begin to erode and they may drift further apart.

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Navigating Intimacy and Connection: A Guide to Online Sex Therapy for Couples in Colorado

In Colorado, where vibrant city life meets the tranquility of nature, many couples may feel pressure to keep their relationships strong, especially amidst life’s daily demands. For couples in Denver, Boulder, Fort Collins, and beyond, online sex therapy offers an effective, boutique therapy option to address intimacy challenges, rebuild connection, and enhance relationship communication. With over 20 years of experience as a licensed sex therapist, trained in the prestigious human sexuality program at Widener University in Philadelphia, I provide tailored, highly specialized support to help couples achieve meaningful progress in their relationships.

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We are More Comfortable Talking about Women’s Pain than Pleasure

When pleasure takes center stage, it becomes a powerful catalyst for self-identified women to reclaim their agency and voice. Prioritizing one's desires not only applies to intimate relationships but extends into the broader sphere of professional life as well. Encouraging women to vocalize their needs and preferences, whether in the bedroom or the boardroom, can be initially challenging, as it challenges longstanding norms and expectations. However, this is precisely the transformation our society needs. By fostering an environment where women feel empowered to speak up and assert themselves, we contribute to a more equitable world where their voices are valued and respected in all aspects of life.

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What Actually IS Meditation?

Our minds have a natural tendency to meander, jumping from one thought to another, often leaving us feeling scatterbrained and unable to sustain our focus for more than a fleeting moment. However, it's important to realize that this wandering mind is not a sign of doom or an inherent flaw. In fact, it's a common experience for many of us. Rather than viewing this tendency with harsh judgment or frustration, it's more helpful to approach it with compassion and understanding. Our minds wander, especially when they are burdened by fear, anxiety, or excessive thoughts. This is where meditation comes in as a valuable practice. Through meditation, we can train our minds to rein in their wandering tendencies and cultivate the ability to focus on one thing at a time. It's a gentle and transformative process that empowers us to harness the potential of our minds, ultimately leading to greater clarity and peace.

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Reconnecting Body and Mind: The Transformative Power of Focusing and Felt Sensing

In a world where we are increasingly encouraged to divorce our bodies and minds, Eugene Gendlin's work on focusing and felt sensing offers a powerful antidote. These practices not only facilitate the reconnection of body and mind but also serve as transformative tools for communication. For folx who have been oppressed, these practices are particularly valuable, as they provide a means to speak from a place of authenticity and empowerment. By embracing these techniques, individuals can unlock their true selves, paving the way for healing, personal growth, and societal change.

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Navigating the Challenges of Breastfeeding: Finding Comfort and Confidence Through Meditation

The journey of breastfeeding, while filled with moments of profound joy, can also present challenges that shake a mother's confidence. Meditation, as exemplified by "Nourishing Flow," offers a healing and empowering solution. It provides a space for mothers to address their concerns, visualize the beauty of the breastfeeding process, and reaffirm their inner strength and wisdom. With this support, as well as therapy, mothers can find comfort and confidence in breastfeeding, fostering a more harmonious and enriching experience for both themselves and their precious babies.

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The Absence of the Divine Feminine in Western Medicine

The absence of the divine feminine in Western medicine is a pressing issue that deserves careful consideration. Addressing the demanding work hours, prioritizing the well-being of healthcare providers, and respecting the inner being of medical students are crucial steps toward creating a more holistic and compassionate healthcare system. By acknowledging the toxic elements of the patriarchy that have seeped into medicine and embracing the qualities of the divine feminine, we can move toward a more balanced and nurturing approach to healthcare—one that values both the health of the provider and the well-being of the patient.

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Doulas and Midwives: Embodiments of the Divine Feminine

The divine feminine is also a symbol of empowerment and trust. Doulas and midwives empower birthing individuals by providing them with knowledge and information about the birthing process, allowing them to make informed choices about their bodies and their babies. In a world where medical interventions often dominate the birthing experience, these caregivers advocate for the autonomy and agency of birthing individuals, helping them reclaim their innate power to give birth.

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Envy Among Women: A Symptom of Patriarchy

One of the most pervasive ways in which the patriarchy fuels envy among women is through the imposition of unattainable beauty standards. The media and advertising industries often present a narrow and idealized image of beauty, leading women to feel envious of those who seemingly conform to these standards. Envy arises when women perceive themselves as falling short, either in terms of physical appearance or the resources required to achieve it, such as access to expensive beauty products or cosmetic procedures.

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Embracing Balance: The Autumn Equinox and Self-Care

The Autumn Equinox serves as a reminder of the natural cycles of life and an opportunity for self-care. By tending to our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, we can better navigate the changes that come with this season. As we embrace the balance of day and night, we also strive to find balance within ourselves, fostering a deeper connection to nature and our inner selves. In doing so, we can move gracefully into autumn, ready to face the challenges and joys it brings.

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Reconciling When People Do Things that are ‘Out of Character’

It can be hard to reconcile the image you have of a person with who they really are. We all do this and psychologists have a term for it: cognitive bias. There’s a lot of information coming at us all the time and the brain likes to make shortcuts. A bias helps us make sense of the world and reach decisions with relative speed. However, it also means we can discard information that doesn’t prop up our view of reality or a person, which is known as confirmation bias.

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Psychedelics Are for Everyone, Not Just White People

“We’re tired of asking for a seat at someone else’s table. Because the rhetoric around people of color in psychedelic spaces has mostly been for show. Because the lasting positive impact that these medicines can have on Black communities is not being fully acknowledged. Because the biggest impediment to Black people participating in this work is not seeing Black people participating in this work. Because when Black people win, we all win. Because we will literally change the world once we’re brought back into proper relationship with the plants, animals, compounds, and communities around us.”

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Expressing Masculinity in a Healthy Way

It's important to recognize that these qualities exist on a spectrum, and no one person embodies all of them perfectly. Additionally, the concept of the divine masculine is not meant to promote traditional gender roles or stereotypes but rather to emphasize that these qualities are part of the human experience and can be cultivated by anyone, regardless of their gender identity. Balancing these qualities with the qualities associated with the divine feminine can lead to a more holistic and integrated sense of self. To live a fully integrated, whole-person kind of life, we all need both of these energies.

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Cannabis and Meditation: Exploring the Synergy

The intersection of cannabis and meditation remains a topic of intrigue and debate. While some individuals may find that using cannabis in moderation enhances their meditation experience, others may discover that it detracts from their practice. Ultimately, the relationship between cannabis and meditation is a personal one, and the key is to use it mindfully, in alignment with your meditation goals, and with respect for local laws and regulations.

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Embracing the Divine Feminine: A Catalyst for Productivity and Profit in Busin

In the competitive world of business, success is often measured by productivity and bottom-line results. While traditional business models have typically focused on masculine-driven qualities such as competition, efficiency, and hierarchy, there is a growing recognition of the positive impact that acknowledging and embracing the Divine Feminine can have on business outcomes.

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