The Complete Guide to Healing Trauma Through Inner Child Work
By Dr. Denise Renye
The Journey to Writing This Book: Insights from a Career in Healing and Transformation
Early in my career, I had the privilege of working in Early Intervention with families and children from birth to three years old while employed by ChildLink in Philadelphia. It was an extraordinary experience to support infants and their families, witnessing firsthand how intergenerational legacies are often passed down nonverbally. The preverbal stages of development revealed so much about how we communicate, connect, and carry the emotional imprints of those who came before us.
That chapter of my professional life profoundly shaped my understanding of the human experience. Working so closely with parents and their young children illuminated how deeply our earliest experiences influence us throughout our lives. It taught me that we carry within us all the ages we’ve ever been—layers of ourselves that may still need attention, healing, and nurturing.
Until we tend to those parts of ourselves, especially the preverbal ones, we risk acting them out in our relationships and daily lives in ways that might not align with the futures we hope to create. This work continues to inspire me, deepening my understanding of how healing and growth require us to embrace all the parts of ourselves—past and present.
Healing from the Inside Out: The Story Behind This Transformative Guide
This book emerged from a deeply personal and professional journey, growing out of blog entries I wrote over the years that were directly inspired by my clinical work with patients, clients, and students. Time and again, I observed how much of the profound healing and growth people experienced was rooted in their inner child work—developing empathy for the vulnerable parts of themselves that had long been neglected.
This process is neither quick nor easy; it requires patience, dedication, and courage. But when I have the privilege of helping facilitate this work, walking alongside someone as they deepen their connection to their inner child, I witness transformations that are nothing short of extraordinary. Lives change. Relationships evolve. New possibilities emerge—possibilities that were once unimaginable.
It’s a powerful journey, one that reshapes not only how people see themselves but also how they engage with the world around them. This book is my way of sharing the tools, insights, and practices that have proven transformative in my work, offering a pathway for others to experience the life-changing power of inner child healing.
Unlock the path to profound growth and emotional resilience with this 123-page guide, uniquely crafted to help you navigate trauma through mindfulness, embodiment, and inner child exploration. Drawing on years of experience in psychology, sex therapy, and trauma healing, this book provides meditative practices, playful inner child techniques, and actionable steps to release trauma responses and foster sexual liberation.
Explore the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) while delving into shadow work and self-acceptance. Thought-provoking journal prompts and somatic exercises are woven throughout to support your journey toward healing, wholeness, and empowerment.
Rooted in my expertise as a trauma-informed psychologist and sex therapist, this guide bridges depth psychotherapy with practical tools, encouraging you to reconnect with your authentic self. Begin your transformation today and create a life filled with authenticity, freedom, and self-compassion.
Table of Contents
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Inner Child Play
Embodiment
Gentleness Breaks
Guided Exercise
Chapter One: Relearning How to Play
Creativity and Your Inner Child
Second Chakra Meditation
Enmeshment and Inner Child Play
Journal Prompts
Inner Child Play and Sexual Freedom
Inner Child Play and Perfectionism
Journal Prompts
Chapter Two: Reacquainting Yourself
Befriending Your Inner Child
Trauma
ACES
Trauma Response Patterns
Inner Child Work and Psychedelics
Wounding an Inner Child
References
Chapter Three: The Stages of Inner Child Healing
Blaming Parents and Caregivers
Journal Prompts
Expressing The Unexpressed
Guided Exercise
Grief
Accepting The Parents You Have
References
Chapter Four: Being The Parent You Wish You’d Had
Guided Exercise
More On Active Imagination
The 4-Step Active Imagination Process
Playtime
(Re)Incorporating touch
Learning About Boundaries
Journal Prompts
When You Realize You Aren't A Good Inner Loving Parent
Addiction and Inner Children
Journal Prompts
References
Chapter Five: Plumbing The Depths
How To Access The Shadow
Guided Exercise
Journal Prompts
Chapter Six: What’s Next?
Discernment
About Dr. Denise Renye